June 2011
1 post
“Confusing monogamy with morality has done more to destroy the conscience of the...”
– George Bernard Shaw, Man and Superman. (via zuimuss)
April 2011
13 posts
Polyamory by Blackwell Encyclopedia of Sociology →
non-monogamy:
Polyamory is a novel concept that has surfaced over recent decades in the debates about non-monogamy. Polyamory circumscribes a relationship philosophy, an identity, or a lifestyle that evolves around the belief that it is worthwhile and valid to have more than one partner. Combining word elements…
“Even sticking to the higher plane of love, is it so very obvious that you can’t...”
– Richard Dawkins
I’m not poly, but this is an awesome quote.
And it leads me to question why I’m not poly. I don’t know, to be honest. I’m just…not. Kind of like how I know I’m straight, I guess. I don’t mean to trivialize the whole thing, of course—I know that for many people, it’s a hell of a lot...
“Having sex with other people while you’re in a relationship doesn’t always have...”
– DearCokeTalk (via fortruthandlove)
Joshua's corner: The continuum of love →
joshuax:
Monkeyfetish said
The thing that draws me to poly is the desire for close friendships where friendship and love blur together into a comfortable belonging.
That’s exactly how I feel. Every relationship I ever had started as a friendship that grew closer and closer. I’m really puzzled…
I don't think I could ever honestly say to someone...
untitledunidentifiedunfinished:
Like how could I say that when everyone else I know is so amazing?
Sucks to be polyamorous. People don’t get it.
Done Being the Fat Girl: onederfulforty asked: →
donebeingthefatgirl:
When it comes to the open relationship you have with your partner, have either of you had a lover outside of your relationship with each other in those ten years you’ve been together? Have either of you gotten jealous over it, like agreed to have the openness but when the time came had some…
Relational Anarchy →
Relational anarchy, [syn. relationship anarchy, both shorted RA,] questions the idea that love is a special, limited feeling which is real only when kept between two people at any given moment. It is possible to love more than one person.
RAs do not divide relationships of partners and non-partners, but [have] a more flexible approach to relationships where everything is allowed as long as...
The Gray Manichean: Creative Writing Blog: Day 12... →
gray-manichean:
I loved a woman, long ago—
Loved her to the point of madness,
But I never told her so.
Then she moved away—O sadness!
.
Years went by before attraction
Ever came my way again.
Then, a crush — I took no action —
She moved on to other men.
.
Still inside my heart resided
High school…
Dan Savage
sunshinegypsy:
Dan Savage Is Coming For—For! Not On!—Your Children!
Not knowing what women are like (or taste like) has never stopped the Pope from offering his unsolicited advice to women—no birth control, no abortions, no oral, no anal, no handjobs—and it’s hypocritical of you to suggest that I’m not qualified to advise women, since I won’t fuck ‘em, without first...
“The main thing,” he said, “is I don’t mind if she sleeps with other people. I...”
– Modern Love - Want to Be My Boyfriend? Please Define - NYTimes.com (via cloneboy)
“Polyamorist writing and activism contribute to the expansion of the languages...”
– Poly/logue: A Critical Introduction to Polyamory -Jin Haritaworn, Chin-ju Lin, and Christian Klesse. Sexualities, December 2006; vol. 9, 5: pp. 515-529.
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team “post-polyamory”
(via ourcatastrophe)
considering polyamory: broaching the subject →
consideringpolyamory:
Something I’ve been wondering is how and when I will bring up the fact that I might be polyamorous. The idea of saying to a man, “Hey, by the way, if you want to go have girlfriends that aren’t me, that’s totally okay with me” feels really strange. True, but strange. I imagine all sorts of odd…
August 2010
2 posts
Communication skills
“I admitted to sometimes feeling left out, to being awkward and to struggling with this issue. I particularly had trouble trusting when my relationship with that lover was having a rough patch. I mentioned this in the discussion as a way of leading to the idea that every relationship is going to have ups and downs. Developing communication skills and growing through your own personal issues is...
“When I mention my partner, people assume there’s only one of them. When I use...”
– | Openly Poly | The Eternal Closet | (via pharmakon)
April 2010
1 post
January 2010
1 post
“Q: If there’s just one thing that you think a poly person should grok and...”
– Tacit, aka Franklin Veaux, interviewed by the Polyamorous Misanthrope last year.
December 2009
2 posts
Relationship Agreement for Poly couples
desirenoir:
“I freely enter into this contract, choosing to live in the NOW with you and remaining open-hearted to future expansion of our family. We know nothing is guaranteed and “happily ever after” exists only in fairy tales. Love and relationships take conscious, consistent effort to maintain and to flourish. I am free to make commitments and I accept responsibility for my actions. My...
13903.
“13903.) everytime we are together its an obvious attraction, but then your girlfriend calls and when you talk to her its so sweet and amazing that i can’t imagine you two breaking up. i love you too much to end your relationship with her.”
(via blogsecret)